If there’s one thing I’ve learned on this rollercoaster of motherhood, it’s that sometimes you have to stop, take a deep breath, and hit reset. Mum guilt, overwhelm, and that constant feeling of “not enough” can leave us drained, and if we don’t look after ourselves, it all starts to feel impossible.

I know this because I’ve been there. I was drowning, stuck in a loop of doing everything for everyone and leaving nothing for myself. But then, I started making small changes—this time just five—that helped me recover, shifted my mindset in days, so now I can still enjoy summer.

1. Get Back to Nature

For me, there’s nothing more healing than spending time outdoors. Whether it’s a day at the beach, a walk in the park, or just sitting under the sun with a cup of tea, nature has this way of grounding me when everything feels chaotic. Literally find nature, bury your feet and tell your world to stop talking and heal.

The beach has become my sanctuary—the sound of the waves, the feel of the sand, and the sun on my skin. It’s like therapy, but free! If you can’t make it to the beach, even stepping outside for 10 minutes to breathe in fresh air can make a difference.

Quick Tip: Next time you feel overwhelmed, take the kids to the beach. This is my view for two days for new years.

2. Keep Things Simple

One of the best things I ever did was stop overcomplicating my life at that point. I can’t do that for long but I can tell myself to stop and calm for 24 hr sometimes 48.  When things get bad I focus on one thing at a time. What absolutely needs to be done make me heal the quickest? Everything else can wait.

This shift in mindset gave me the breathing space I desperately needed. Simplifying isn’t just about schedules, either—it’s about learning that meals – meals, cleaning, and even social commitments can wait, find an excuse or tell them the truth. Less is more, and trust me, the world won’t end if you say no to something.

Quick Tip: Try writing down just three priorities for the day instead of a long to-do list. It’s amazing how much lighter you’ll feel. Every time you cross one of genuine reward yourself eve if it’s only self talk. 

3. Ignore Everyone Else’s Expectations

This one was a game-changer. For years, I let other people’s opinions and dramas run my life. I was so caught up in meeting their expectations that I forgot myself. Living by other people rule destroyed my soul and drive me to a suicide attempt. My unmasking experience has awaken to how far I will go to give up me for someone I love. 

When I stop focusing on what other people expect—and let go of the need to fix everyone else’s problems—I feel lighter. Not everyone will understand your choices, and that’s okay. You don’t need to explain yourself. Your job is to do what works for you and your family. Remember your family loves you. 

Quick Tip: The next time someone tries to guilt you into something, take a step back and ask yourself, Does this align with what I need right now? and what for that feeling. you will feel it. If the answer is no, feel free to say no.

4. Write Like Crazy

I’m not a professional writer, but journaling has been one of the most powerful tools for my mental health. There’s something about putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) that helps me process my emotions and let go of what’s weighing me down.

Some days I write about what’s frustrating me. Other days, it’s about what I’m grateful for. There’s no right or wrong way to do it—just let the words flow. Writing has become my safe space, where I can be honest with myself and figure things out without judgment. My mind races most days. I actually journal alot in my notes section on my phone but my 14 year old journals in a book

Quick Tip: If you’re new to journaling, start with prompts like:

• What made me smile today?
• What’s one thing I need to let go of?
• What am I proud of this week?

5. Focus on What Feels Good

This might sound obvious, but it’s not always easy to do. When life gets hectic, we tend to focus on the problems—the things that aren’t working, the things we need to fix. But shifting your attention to what feels good or gives you hope can completely change your outlook.

For me, it’s the little things: a hot cup of tea, my favourite playlist, a good book, or even just sitting quietly for five minutes. These small moments of joy add up, and they remind me that even in the chaos, there’s still room for happiness.

Quick Tip: At the end of each day, write down three things that made you feel good. It’s a simple habit that helps you focus on the positives.

Moving Forward

Motherhood is hard, but it doesn’t have to be a constant uphill battle. These five changes didn’t fix everything, but they gave me the strength and clarity I needed to keep going. By taking time for yourself, simplifying your life, and focusing on what truly matters, you can create a little space to breathe—and maybe even enjoy the ride.

So, to answer the big question: Will parenting get easier? It might not. But with the right mindset and a little self-care, it can definitely feel better.